In life our first job is this, to divide and distinguish things into two categories: externals I cannot control, but the choices I make with regard to them I do control.
Where will I find good and bad?
In me, in my choices.
Epictetus, Greek Stoic philosopher, 55 – 135
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Karl, as Lways I find your post so thoughtful and calm.
On top of that you brought a wise Greek along.
miriam