Not trying to fix

Often, intimacy arises not from any attempt to take the pain away, but from living through together; not from a working out, but from a being with. Trust and closeness deepen from holding and being with, both emotionally and physically. I’m learning, pain by pain and tension by tension, that after all my strategies, the strength of love lies in receiving and not negotiating; in accepting each other and not problem solving each other; in listening and affirming each other, not trying to change or fix those we love.

Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

One thought on “Not trying to fix

  1. Spent last year reading this book which was a gift to me from a very special friend. Each days passage was such a gift to me as well. Just as your posts here are!

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