Most western therapies are based on theories of personality; they are geared toward knowing, rather than not-knowing. An unspoken assumption in the therapeutic world is that we should always know who we are, and if we don’t that a real problem. So when an old maladaptive identity starts to break down, this may be frightening for client and therapist alike…. At times like this I rely on my own realization that none of us really knows who we are, that this is the nature of our being, that if we have a true self at all, it somehow lies in the heart of the unknowingness that opens up when we inquire deeply into our existence, and that we can hang out on the edge of this unknown, we may discover how to let ourselves be, without having to be something.
John Welwood, Toward a Psychology of Awakening
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Our culture, our TV, social media life bombard us with the opposite. how can we know anything when we follow the ego we created.
The true self lies beneath thought, beneath the left hemisphere, it exist where there is no dialogue, no judgment or worry. We are all perfect if we would only spend the time to be aware.
All we need to be is here without doubt judgment or worry and try our best in this present moment. We can all do it right now. no need to accomplish anything, overcome anything or think at all.
happiness lies beneath the ego or consciousness and not in cognitive or ego driven thoughts.
Sit everyday and find out for yourself.