A lot of the time much of our sense of inner worth is based on feelings related to others’ perceptions of us  or their achievements.  However, it is a basic tenet of mindfulness that happiness and peace of mind do not comes from things outside of us – when certain conditions are right – such as from a relationship, or what we possess or from our status in society –  but rather comes from working with our mind and heart. It is ironically from not seeking some things that they are found:

Looking for peace is like looking for a turtle with a mustache:

You won’t be able to find it.

But when your heart is ready,

peace will come looking for you.

Ajahn Chah