We tend either to feel once removed from what is happening, or to become entirely lost in it. Both tendencies leave us with a sense of artificiality, however dramatic and sensational the situation may be. My understanding …is that it is possible to live in-between these two modes of limited being. We remain one with experience – not torn apart by a commitment to an image. Through abiding in the in-between we discover a subtle kind of personal confidence. It is not “my” confidence because it is a confidence that belongs to reality. The struggle of moving from finding security in false identities into realisation of limitless abiding beyond personality is difficult. It feels like it will cost us everything. But [instead]…we find there are more and more situations in which we remember ourselves more quickly. We are now more likely to be able to accord with whatever situation we are in as we move through the world – not because we have become more liberal or compromising, not at all, but because we don’t hold ourselves so tightly.

Ajahn Munindo, Unexpected Freedom