The easiest way to relax is to stop trying to make things different. Rather than trying to create another state, simply allow space for whatever is going on. If you sit down after being busy and your mind feels agitated or chaotic, try just seeing that state for what it is and accepting it. You might frame your whole mind-body expereince with the mental note “chaos, chaos”. Instead of having an agenda to change the quality of your energy, you enjoy the use of this simple key to just open to the energy that is there. This does not mean either spacing out or being entanglesd in your agitated thoughts. Rather, through accpetance we settle back into natural awarenss of whatever is present. Then things settle down by themselves in a natural way. Struggle comes from not accepting what is present.
Joseph Goldstein, Insight Meditation
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oh, I needed to read this. My mind is whirling with all that is to come with grad school. I let myself get wrapped up into the frustration of the not knowing and got really irritated. I realized that the trigger was not eating well yesterday; not enough protein. I like the “chaos, chaos” thought. Let it be at that. Don’t try to change the moment. Thank you.
Hi! What a lovely piece!
My life is very simple these days:-) but back when it was chaotic, busy and confusing then I kept a little box where I kept symbols of the things that stressed me. So when I felt the need, then I would take out a symbol from the box, look at it, cry with it, be angry with it and being very hard on myself with it. And when it came to an end, then I could put it back in the box. Putting it back meant to me to be dismissed from spending my time on negative thoughts.
I was very much looking at sides of myself that I needed to confront, but I could also have proper breaks from doing so. And with time I had worked myself through each symbol, still in one piece:-)
Thank you for reminding me of this. I will have to blog about that some day!
Mx