The arrogant mind never stops searching for identity, and this identity always defines itself through attributes: “the beautiful one,” “the smart one,” “the creative one,” “the successful one.”   We can hold on to these labels on a “good” day.  But when we feel insecure about our attributes, or our lack thereof, we start to wonder how to define ourselves;  we wonder who it is we really are.  Regardless of whether we’re having a good day or a low-self-esteem day, the points is, we haven’t found a way to relax, to be natural, to be unself-conscious.   We don’t know how to take our seat in ordinariness and feel comfortable in our own skin. We are always searching for something to be.  It’s like having an ongoing identity crisis.