Instead of making others right or wrong, or bottling up right and wrong in ourselves, there’s a middle way, a very powerful middle way. This middle way involves not hanging on to our version so tightly.  It involves keeping  our hearts and minds open long enough to entertain the idea that when we make things wrong,  we do it out of a desire to obtain some kind of ground or security. Equally, when we make things right,  we are still trying to  obtain some kind of ground or security. Could our minds and our hearts be big enough just to hang out in that space  where we’re not entirely certain about who’s right and who’s wrong? Could we have no agenda when we walk into a room with another person, not know what to say, not make that person wrong or right?  Could we see,  hear,  feel other people as they really are? It is powerful to practice this way, because we’ll find ourselves continually rushing around to try to feel secure again – to make ourselves or them either right or wrong.   

  Pema Chodron, When Things Fall Apart – Heart Advice for Difficult Times