When someone says or does something that I find either obnoxious or unattractive – anything that my ego uses to separate myself from others –  I’ll just soften my eyes and fall back into that “something else.” That something else is what does the transforming – it is the grace that makes it work. My only effort is to be aware enough to realize what’s happening. The moment of realizing is actually, in itself, a form of healing. The moment I see that and am willing to fall back into grace, then there’s a possibility for something different to happen within myself. Instead of judging an experience – which makes more separation- I can fall back into letting the universe handle it. This is a gift that’s quite freeing.    

Kathleen Dowling Singh, The Grace in Living: Recognize It, Trust It, Abide in It