Deepening your Practice 3: Be aware of the mind’s reactions

Mindfulness is not necessarily concentrating on an object. Being aware of confusion is also being mindful. If we have all kinds of things coming at our senses -noises, people demanding this and that- we cannot concentrate on any one of them for very long. But we can be aware of the confusion, or the excitement, or the impingement; we can be aware of the reactions in our own minds. That is what we call being mindful. We can be mindful of confusion and chaos. And we can be mindful of peace and tranquillity.

The path of mindfulness is the path of no preferences.

Ajahn Sumedho

All things come to an end

One of the more frequently quoted phrases coming from different wisdom traditions is “This too will pass” It is a reminder that we can find contentment in whatever circumstance if we glimpse the truth that all things will not last forever. Change is constant, events, people, health and sickness come and go in our lives, difficult situations will end. It allows us create space between ourselves and the situation and focus instead on why the situation has been presented to us and what we can learn from it.

It’s not always easy to stay balanced but it helps me when I look at the things happening in my life as due to many causes coming together. The wisest way I can respond to them is by working with them and  not struggling with them. This does not mean that I should not fight for the things that I can change or refuse to accept it when others treat me badly. However, at times, there are things that I cannot change. “This too will pass” helps me see that all things have an ending. And when I see that endings can lead to new beginnings, I can endure difficulties more easily and let go of good things without resentment.

Missing something?

In meditation we are not trying to fix anything about ourselves. It is not about producing change, although change can occur. In a fundamental sense,  it is about being with ourselves and our life as it is. It is not about looking out there, but at ourselves, now, in this moment. It is complete as it is, if we could just see it.

When we start on this path, no doubt we are going for something…. Eventually we realize that we’re actually operating with a very dissatisfied mind, a greedy mind, a hungry mind, that it’s reaching for something.

What is it reaching for? Well, something imagined. Something projected out there. It’s feeling an inadequacy, that somehow we’re missing something. But were we to just settle into what’s actually occurring now in this very moment, there isn’t any straining, or striving, or struggle that’s taking place. It is simply a slowly opening up, awakening to just what is occurring here.

Steve Hagen

A Morning Prayer: Gratitude

I join my hands in thanks
for the many wonders of life;
for having twenty-four brand-new hours before me.

Thich Nhat Hanh, Call Me by My True Names

Six Simple Strategies for a Stress-Free Summer, 1.

Maintain a Quiet Time Routine

Finding quiet time isn’t a luxury; it’s essential for protecting your health.  So, take time for yourself each day. The key is –  when will you practice meditation and where? It’s always easy to postpone our practice when we don’t have a designated time  for it.  A routine will strengthen your perseverence. Decide how long you will meditate. The best way to develop your meditation practice is to be consistent. Short sessions regularly are better than longer sporadic sessions . Start to enjoy the idea of regularity and routine.

Patience

In a sense,  sitting practice is waste of time because it is a dedicated period of non-doing. On an outward level it appears to achieve nothing. To make things even worse, nothing really seems to change from day to day: you sit, you get distracted, you return to the breath, you get distracted…. It may seem pointless. It feels hard to presevere because the results are not immediately tangible while the actual practice can be difficult.

However, the “point” to meditation,  is precisely by doing “nothing” and slowing down, gaps are created between activities and we develop our capacity to be aware of what is going on. And it seems that when one is aware, things have a greater tendency to fall as they should, in harmony with our deepest self.

There is increasing scientific backing showing that this “pointless” activity is, in fact, achieving something simply while we are sitting. It has been found that people who meditate activate the part of their brain that is associated with less anxiety and a better outlook on life. By not activating the anxious parts of the brain  for certain periods of each day, our bodies are less likely to be tense, and our minds less likely to trigger well-conditioned patterns when faced with difficulties.

Tara Bennett-Goleman  suggests that meditation works because it changes the relationship between the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex. The amygdala is the part of the brain that decides, among other things, if we should get angry or anxious. The pre-frontal cortex is the part that makes us stop and think about things. However, the amygdala can be over-cautious and makes mistakes, such as seeing problems or exaggerating anxiety where there is none. It can make us anxious even when there is no real danger present.  Because there is a time gap between the time an event occurs and the reaction of the amygdala, the slowing down we practice in meditation may allow the pre-frontal contex intervene before an automatic reaction takes over. We can redirect it into more constructive or positive feelings. In other words, meditation develops emotional brain fitness and therefore this pointless activity may not be pointless after all.

In the case of meditaton, your goal is to transform yourself over the course of months and years. The progress you make is usually hardly noticeable from day to day
like the hands of a clock you hardly see moving.

Haste and meditation do not go together ; Any profound transformation is bound to take time.

Matthieu Ricard,  The Art of Meditation