Six Simple Strategies for a Stress-Free Summer, 4.

Practice Compassion & Kindness:

Studies show that when we perform acts of kindness,  there is a sharp reduction in stress and a release of the body’s natural painkillers, the endorphins. Acts of kindness and compassion can lead to an experience of improved emotional well-being. So this day, look around at others and think beyond yourself. All kinds of opportunities to help, some big and some small, will present themselves if we pay attention.  Regardless of the size of the act, there is no wrong way to perform simple acts of kindness. The possibilities are endless! This day ask: How will I  practice spreading kindness in my life?

Six Simple Strategies for a Stress-Free Summer, 3.

Give yourself a break from the Snowball Effect of your Thoughts

If you have done the first two practices in this series, you will have noticed how difficult it is just to be quiet or present to nature. Our minds get drawn away by the continual spinning effect of our thoughts. One thought leads to another, and yet another, until you feel agitated or upset or worried. If we get stressed, this can almost feel like a “thought attack.” When you notice your thoughts  starting to spin, consciously ground your posture and use awareness of your breathing to create a space before they build a momentum.  Try to shift your focus back to the present moment, to this period of quiet or to the sights of nature. Even a five minutes gap from our continual planning and ruminating can have an effect on our health.

Six Simple Strategies for a Stress-Free Summer, 2.

Walk in Nature and connect with a sense of wonder

When we do walking meditation, we are using the physical, mental, and emotional experiences of walking to develop greater awareness. Walk slowly and let your attention rest on all the sensations in your body,  noting those inside your body and in its contact with the environment. When you step, feel the foot coming into contact with the ground and rising from it, and be aware of the rest of your body as you move. Contact with the earth “grounds” your attention in the present moment. From time to time stop and simply breathe. As you walk,  quietly say “thanks”  for the things in nature you notice –  for the birds, the sky,  the wild flowers and the trees.

Six Simple Strategies for a Stress-Free Summer, 1.

Maintain a Quiet Time Routine

Finding quiet time isn’t a luxury; it’s essential for protecting your health.  So, take time for yourself each day. The key is –  when will you practice meditation and where? It’s always easy to postpone our practice when we don’t have a designated time  for it.  A routine will strengthen your perseverence. Decide how long you will meditate. The best way to develop your meditation practice is to be consistent. Short sessions regularly are better than longer sporadic sessions . Start to enjoy the idea of regularity and routine.

A simple practice for reducing stress today

If at times today you find yourself getting anxious or stressed,  you may like to try this simple practice of dropping into your breathing. We use the breath as an anchor to steady us at moments of confusion or distress. The breath is always with us. We do not need any special skills or practices to simply notice it. We do not need to go anywhere, other than where we are at that moment:

Our breathing is a stable solid ground that we can take refuge in. Regardless of our internal weather- our thoughts, emotions and perceptions- our breathing is always with us like a faithful friend. Whenever we feel carried away, or sunken in a deep emotion, or scattered in worries and projects, we return to our breathing to collect and anchor our mind.

We feel the flow of air coming in and going out of our nose. We feel how light and natural, how calm and peaceful our breathing functions. At any time, we can return to this peaceful source of life.

We may like to recite: Breathing in I know that I am breathing in.
Breathing out I know that I am breathing out.”

We do not need to control our breath. Feel the breath as it actually is. It may be long or short, deep or shallow. Conscious breathing is the key to uniting body and mind and bringing the energy of mindfulness into everyday life.

Thich Nhat Hahn

Patience

In a sense,  sitting practice is waste of time because it is a dedicated period of non-doing. On an outward level it appears to achieve nothing. To make things even worse, nothing really seems to change from day to day: you sit, you get distracted, you return to the breath, you get distracted…. It may seem pointless. It feels hard to presevere because the results are not immediately tangible while the actual practice can be difficult.

However, the “point” to meditation,  is precisely by doing “nothing” and slowing down, gaps are created between activities and we develop our capacity to be aware of what is going on. And it seems that when one is aware, things have a greater tendency to fall as they should, in harmony with our deepest self.

There is increasing scientific backing showing that this “pointless” activity is, in fact, achieving something simply while we are sitting. It has been found that people who meditate activate the part of their brain that is associated with less anxiety and a better outlook on life. By not activating the anxious parts of the brain  for certain periods of each day, our bodies are less likely to be tense, and our minds less likely to trigger well-conditioned patterns when faced with difficulties.

Tara Bennett-Goleman  suggests that meditation works because it changes the relationship between the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex. The amygdala is the part of the brain that decides, among other things, if we should get angry or anxious. The pre-frontal cortex is the part that makes us stop and think about things. However, the amygdala can be over-cautious and makes mistakes, such as seeing problems or exaggerating anxiety where there is none. It can make us anxious even when there is no real danger present.  Because there is a time gap between the time an event occurs and the reaction of the amygdala, the slowing down we practice in meditation may allow the pre-frontal contex intervene before an automatic reaction takes over. We can redirect it into more constructive or positive feelings. In other words, meditation develops emotional brain fitness and therefore this pointless activity may not be pointless after all.

In the case of meditaton, your goal is to transform yourself over the course of months and years. The progress you make is usually hardly noticeable from day to day
like the hands of a clock you hardly see moving.

Haste and meditation do not go together ; Any profound transformation is bound to take time.

Matthieu Ricard,  The Art of Meditation