Even the idea of being a ‘good meditator’ or a ‘wise person’ is just another ego-trip.
The Buddha didn’t teach us to replace ‘bad self’ with ‘holy self’ –
he taught us to let go of the whole business.
Ajahn Sumedho Dhamma talk

In Zen archery, the archer doesn’t shoot the arrow; the arrow shoots itself. The moment you aim, you’ve already missed. This is the paradox of wu wei: the harder you try, the more you obstruct the flow. But when you surrender all trying, the universe acts through you. A dancer becomes the dance; a singer becomes the song. There’s no separation between the artist and the art.
This is why Lao Tzu says, ‘The Tao never acts, yet nothing is left undone.’ The sun doesn’t decide to shine; the rain doesn’t intend to fall. They simply follow their nature. When we align with this same spontaneity, our actions become as inevitable and effortless as breathing
Stephen Mitchell, The Way of Effortless Action: Wu Wei in Zen and Taoism
Ajahn Sumedho advises: ‘Don’t take your life personally.’
That sounds disorienting, and it is: but what replaces the solid isolated self is respect for the sensitivity and clarity with respect to the boundless heart – that we all can have access to. This sense, this awakening to citta, can widen one’s cosmos and give it balance: my feelings, my rights, my time, and my opinions have to be felt through the heart, but they don’t have to be such an exclusive concern.
Ajahn Sucitto