Strong back, Soft front

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Roshi Joan Halifax developed this practice in relation to her work with the dying, but I think it can apply in any workplace.  In meditation practice we develop our capacity to sit still, settle into, and be held up by, the body, rather than our habitual relating to life from just our thinking mind. The strength of the spine allows us to support ourselves. We can then carry this supported sense into whatever our workday brings, keeping an open, soft, welcome for whatever each moment brings. Whenever something challenging is encountered, we can remind ourself of our inner strength by quietly saying to ourselves, “Strong back”. Rather than retreating into a position of defensiveness or fear, we open to things as they are:

All too often our so-called strength comes from fear not love; instead of having a strong back, many of us have a defended front shielding a weak spine. In other words, we walk around brittle and defensive, trying to conceal our lack of confidence. If we strengthen our backs, metaphorically speaking, and develop a spine that’s flexible but sturdy, then we can risk having a front that’s soft and open, representing choiceless compassion. The place in your body where these two meet – strong back and soft front – is the brave, tender ground in which to root our caring deeply.

Joan Halifax

Sunday Quote: Recognize

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You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going.

What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage.

Thomas Merton

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Seasons in life

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Now all you can do is wait.

It must be hard for you, but there is a right time for everything.

Like the ebb and flow of tides.

No one can do anything to change them.

When it is time to wait, you must wait

Haruki Murakumi, Japanese writer 1949 – , The Wind up Bird Chronicle

Why meditation helps

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Meditation is the discovery

that the point of life is always arrived at

in the immediate moment.

Alan Watts

with thanks again to Ellen for the beautiful autumn photo

A way of direct experience

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The way that can be spoken is not the eternal way
That which can be named is not the eternal name

Lao Tzu,  Tao Te Ching, 1

“Talking about a path is not walking that path.
Thinking about life is not living“.

Directly experiencing life is not something we do easily. By the time we are adults, our experience is mediated through a multitude of conceptual filters that provide a constant commentary about our life, but that ignore the thing itself. This process is so deeply conditioned in most of us that we don’t even notice it. We wander through day after day with our minds spinning an endless stream of thoughts, judgments, hopes, fantasies, critiques, and plans, all mixed with a babble of advertising jingles and fragments of television shows.  Lao-tzu suggests that this habitual commentary on life, though a natural part of being human, is not the same thing as a fully lived life. At the same time, he does not totally discount the conceptual thinking process. We make a certain kind of sense out of our life through the use of categories, thoughts, and words. But,  he suggests … these thoughts and words are gateways to life, not life itself.

 Commentary on the Tao Te Ching by William Martin in A Path and A Practice

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Sunday quote: The heart’s capacity

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Mindfulness meditation doesn’t change life.

Life remains as fragile and unpredictable as ever.

Meditation changes the heart’s capacity to accept life as it is.

Sylvia Boorstein

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