What does it mean to see each other exactly as we are? Past memories about ourselves and each other are not how we are right now. Memory is an incomplete and inaccurate recording of the past. Now is something entirely different. Quietly looking and listening now is not memory. It is an entirely different mode of being, It is a cleansing of perception.
Toni Packer, The Work of this Moment
To know the ten thousand things,
know one well
Miyamoto Musashi, 1584 – 1645, The Book of Five Rings
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We can never fully know the meaning of what is happening to us now. Life-defining moments often become clear only in hindsight. We often miss what is in front of us by leaning too far into the future, or having too fixed a plan for our life. Cultivating a “Don’t Know” mind helps us allow things unfold in their own time.
There was an old man with a small farm in China many years ago. He had one son, who did most of the work on the farm and a neighbour, himself old with a son.
One day the old man’s horse ran off, and the neighbour, seeing this, said, “How terrible, your horse has run off, now work on your farm will be so difficult.” To this the old man replied, “Maybe good, maybe bad, we’ll see.”
The next day the old man’s horse returned leading a group of wild horses, and the neighbour, seeing this, said, “How wonderful! You have many horses, now you have great wealth and may live easily.” To this the old man replied, “Maybe good, maybe bad, we’ll see.”
The next day the old man’s son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg, and the neighbour, seeing this, said, “How terrible, your son has broken his leg, now your work will be doubled as nurse and farmer.” To this the old man replied, “Maybe good, maybe bad, we’ll see.”
The next day the king’s men came to the farms seeking all able men to fight a distant battle, and the neighbour, sobbing as his son marched off, said “How fortunate you are for having an injured son, mine will surely perish.” To this the old man replied, “Maybe good, maybe bad, we’ll see.”
A Taoist Tale
There is no enlightenment outside of daily life.
Thich Nhat Hanh
The source of our unease is the unfulfillable longing for a lasting certainty and security, for something solid to hold on to. Unconsciously we expect that if we could just get the right job, the right partner, the right something, our lives would run smoothly. [Instead,] we are encouraged to get comfortable with, begin to relax with, lean into, whatever the experience may be. We are encouraged to drop the storyline and simply pause, look out, and breathe. Simply be present for a few seconds, a few minutes, a few hours, a whole lifetime, with our own shifting energies and with the unpredictability of life as it unfolds, wholly partaking in all experiences just exactly as they are.
Pema Chodron, Taking the Leap
There is only one day left,
always starting over:
it is given to us at dawn
and taken away from us at dusk.
Jean-Paul Sartre
