As one matures, a greater tolerance of ambiguity
is essential both for growth,
and as a measure of respect for the autonomy of the mystery.
James Hollis, Tracking the Gods
So, how can we achieve inner contentment?
There are two methods. One method is to obtain everything that we want and desire – all the money, houses, and cars; the perfect mate; and the perfect body. The Dalai Lama has already pointed out the disadvantage of this approach; if our wants and desires remain unchecked, sooner or later we will run up against something that we want but can’t have.
The second, and more reliable, method is not to have what we want but rather to want and appreciate what we have.
The Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living
Of all things that exist, some are in our power, and others are not in our power.
In our power are thought, impulse, desire, aversion, and, in a word, those things which is our own doing.
Things not in our power include the body, property and possessions reputation, positions of authority, and, in a word, everything which is not our own doing.