Conditions for Growth

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The potential space between baby and mother, between child and family, between the individual and society and the world, depends on experience which leads to trust.  It can be looked upon as sacred to the individual, in that it is here that the individual experiences creative living.
Winnicott, Playing and Reality

Releasing fixed identities

Loving another person

Being kind is a simple practice, but it is also a transforming practice,

because as we continue, the conceptual boundary between “us” and “them” begins to melt

Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche

In whatever circumstances

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La joie réside au plus intime de l’âme; on peut aussi bien la posséder dans une obscure prison que dans un palais.

(Joy dwells in the deepest part of the soul; one can have it in an obscure prison just as much as in a palace)

St Therese of Lisieux

photo of the former prison in Annecy by Emmanuel Boutet

…even with contradictions

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It is easy enough to see that all through our lives we are faced with the task of reconciling opposites

which, in logical thought, cannot be reconciled

E.F. Schumacher, Small is Beautiful

photo: pjposullivan

Little steps

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Sometimes I feel overwhelmed. But I try to work one day at a time. If we just worry about the big picture, we are powerless. So my secret is to start right away doing whatever little work I can do. I try to give joy to one person in the morning, and remove the suffering of one person in the afternoon. That’s enough.

When you see you can do that, you continue, and you give two little joys, and you remove two little sufferings, then three, and then four. If you and your friends do not despise the small work, a million people will remove a lot of suffering. That is the secret. Start right now.

Sister Chân Không

photo shaun mitchem

Holding tension

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We must cultivate the ability to hold tension in life-giving ways. Our lives are filled with contradictions — from the gap between our aspirations and our behavior to observations and insights we cannot abide because they run counter to our convictions. If we fail to hold them creatively, these contradictions will shut us down and take us out of the action. But when we allow their tensions to expand our hearts, they can open us to new understandings of ourselves and our world, enhancing our lives and allowing us to enhance the lives of others. We are imperfect and broken beings who inhabit an imperfect and broken world. The genius of the human heart lies in its capacity to use these tensions to generate insight, energy, and new life.

Parker Plamer, Healing the Heart of Democracy

photo gocheganas