This practice is just about the mind and its feelings. It is not something that you have to run after or struggle for. Breathing continues while working. Nature takes care of the natural processes – all we have to do is try to be aware. Just to keep trying, going inwards to see clearly. Meditation is like this.
Ajahn Chah, Collected Teaching, The Peace Beyond
How do we get to feel good, or at least OK, with others — and when we’re alone? A big part of the solution comes from attending to the flow of emotions. But you can’t do that unless you’re prepared to feel them in a focused and non-reactive way. That is why we meditate; that’s what mindfulness is about. When we bring mindfulness to bear on how we’re affected, what arises is a means to handle the emotions — in a non-separative, non-judgemental way.
Ajahn Sucitto, Cultivating Empathy
That is why the sage can act without effort
and teach without words,
nurture things without possessing them,
and accomplish things without expecting merit:
only one who makes no attempt to possess it, cannot lose it.
Lao Tzu
We suffer a lot through our thoughts, more commonly so in the West nowadays than through physical problems. And in meditation we start to recognize that any physical pains that we do have can be made much worse by the attitude with which we hold them. Much the same goes for pain from a mental, perceptual source. Thinking forms a significant part of the way physical pain is held; it is charged with emotional drives that give rise to that ‘trapped, desperate, this shouldn’t be happening’ mood. Then there are the pleasant sensations or mental states accompanied by ‘more of this, this is the way it should be’ and the neutral accompanied by ‘well, shouldn’t something be happening?’ Although these moods do the holding, they in turn are backed up and incited by the thinking process. ‘I was feeling OK until I started thinking about the rotten deal I got, or what someone else is getting, or the way it was, or the way things ought to be…’
Ajahn Sucitto
In meditation we discover our inherent restlessness. Sometimes we get up and leave. Sometimes we sit there but our bodies wiggle and squirm and our minds go far away. This can be so uncomfortable that we feel it’s impossible to stay. Yet this feeling can teach us not just about ourselves but also about what it is to be human. All of us derive security and comfort from the imaginary world of memories and fantasies and plans. We really don’t want to stay with the nakedness of our present experience. it goes against the grain to stay present. The instruction is, Stay…stay…just stay. So whenever we wander off, we gently encourage ourselves to “stay” and settle down.
Pema Chodron, The Places that Scare you
When you possess light within, you see it externally, Anais Nin.Yesterday was the Summer Solstice, the northern hemisphere’s longest day of sunlight, the official start of Summer in this part of the world, when the northern polar axis of the earth tilts most sunwards and longer days of sunlight follow. Traditional cultures knew the significance of this date and marked it by lighting bonfires. This tradition passed into the Christian era with the lighting of bonfires and fireworks on Midsummer’s Day or in some European countries on the eve of the feast of Saint John, le feu de la Saint-Jean.
Fire, light, festivals. They remind us that our lives need moments of joy and celebration. We can forget this when we are in a difficult place, like when we are faced with new challenges. Our mind switches into danger mode and narrows its focus, dominated by thoughts of the difficulty. The Chinese Proverb “When you only have two pennies left in the world, buy bread with one and a lily with the other” reminds us that even in hardship, we need to create reminders of beauty and warmth. Our circumstances are always changing. Life can at times be difficult or dark. It it how we live in those dark moments which determines whether we suffer. Even with little means we can decide to celebrate, we can choose to notice the beauty in our lives. It is true that we can certainly be cheered when the sun shines outside. However, largely our sense of contentment is determined by what we do within. “Difficulties are inevitable, suffering is optional” the phrase reminds us. To paraphrase that in the light of the start of summer – a lack of sun may be inevitable from time to time, but darkness within is optional.
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