It is through the messiness of our own individual histories – and the complexity of the world with all its divisions and differences of opinion – that we come to a full contentment in our lives, not by running away or denying parts of ourselves or what has happened in the past:
The way through the world
is more difficult to find
than the way beyond it
Wallace Stevens
Mindfulbalance 
How true. I’m realizing that I am who I am based on the experiences and now I can decide what to do with those experiences.