To work with fear – notice, don’t analyse, don’t run

When we notice that the conditions of the mind and the body are just the way conditions are, it’s a simple recognition. It’s not an analysis and it is not anything special. It’s just a bare recognition, a direct knowing of whatever passes away. Knowing in this way demands a certain amount of patience; otherwise as soon as any fear, anger or unpleasantness arises, we will run away from it. So meditation is also the ability to endure, and bear with, the unpleasant. We don’t seek it out; we are not ascetics, looking for painful things to endure so that we can prove ourselves. We are simply recognizing the way it is right now. Meditation is established on that which is ordinary, not on that which is extraordinary.

Ajahn Sumedho, The Mind and the Way.

What is prayer

It cannot be put any simpler or more beautiful than this. Just pay attention. And let what we see enrich our inner life.

It doesn’t have to be the blue iris, it could be weeds in a vacant lot, or a few
small stones; just pay attention, then patch

a few words together and don’t try
to make them elaborate, this isn’t
a contest but the doorway

into thanks, and a silence in which
another voice may speak.

Mary Oliver, Prayer

Sunday Quote: Courage

 

Life shrinks or expands

in proportion to one’s courage.

Anais Nin

Resting on our own ground

No one else can ever provide the connection that finally puts the soul at ease. We find that connection when the window of the heart opens, allowing us to bask in the warmth and openness that is our deepest nature. When we look to others for this ground, we wind up trying to control and manipulate them into being there for us in a way that allows us to settle into ourselves. yet this very focus on trying to get something from them prevents us from resting in our own ground, leaving us outwardly dependent and inwardly disconnected.

John Welwood

We are not our thoughts

We are not our thoughts. Thoughts come and thoughts go.

Unaccompanied thoughts pass quickly.

Thoughts that are thought about become desires.

Desires that are thought about become passions.

Margaret Mary Funk, Thoughts Matter

Caring requires that we reach out

That it hurts to care is borne out in its etymology,  for “care” derives from the Indo-European word meaning “to cry out” as in a lament. Caring is not passive but an assertion that no matter how strained and messy our relationships can be, it is worth something to be present, with others, doing our small part.

Katherine Norris, Acedia