Listening to people this week I was struck by how frequently we tend to define ourselves in terms of solid, unchanging qualities. However, when we talk about ourselves in terms that are fixed, such as “I’m no good at ……”, or “I am a timid person” … we freeze our whole selves into just one limited part. Or if we attach our identity to some things that are fixed – like a job, a relationship as it is now, where we live or something that we have – we are sooner or later going to run into difficulty because everything changes. It is a good practice to keep defining ourselves in fluid terms, as always changing – continually constructing ourselves in way that is able to deal with the ongoing changes in life. We know that if we try to prevent change and freeze things as they are, we are attempting something impossible. So let us work on really understanding the inevitability of the change we see all around us by applying this to how we narrate our life story, even our story of just this week. In this way we can more easily see our true underlying openness of mind, which can be aware of all the words which we attach to ourselves. This leaves us open to all possibilities in our future, not limiting ourselves or having just one fixed identity or goal.
Just as a snake sheds its skin, so we should shed our past, over and over again