Acknowledging gently

Most of us experience a life full of wonderful moments and difficult moments. But for many of us, even when we are most joyful, there is fear behind our joy. We fear that this moment will end, that we won’t get what we need, that we will lose what we love, or that we will not be safe.  We may think that if we ignore our fears, they’ll go away. But if we bury worries and anxieties in our consciousness, they continue to affect us and bring us more sorrow. We are very afraid of being powerless. But we have the power to look deeply at our fears, and then fear cannot control us. We can transform our fear. Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. The first part of looking at our fear is just inviting it into our awareness without judgment. We just acknowledge gently that it is there. This brings a lot of relief already. Then, once our fear has calmed down, we can embrace it tenderly and look deeply into its roots, its sources. Understanding the origins of our anxieties and fears will help us let go of them. Is our fear coming from something that is happening right now or is it an old fear, a fear from when we were small that we’ve kept inside?   If you can look deep into your fear and have a clear vision of it, then you really can live a life that is worthwhile.

Thich Nhat Hahn

3 thoughts on “Acknowledging gently

  1. Very nice! It’s funny, I was just reading an old journal of mine where I wrote about a conversation I had with someone I met in my travels, and he was essentially saying this, to gently acknowledge difficult feelings, stay with them, & they will dissolve.
    And as I was reading your post, I was thinking that it also reminded me of something I read by thich nhat hanh, where he suggests to “invite your difficult emotions in for a cup of tea.” This simple idea has stuck with me for years, and it is deeply transformative and applicable.
    And then I noticed your quote is from the man himself. Of course!
    Thank you for the synchronistic words of wisdom. I’m going to go sit with my feelings now.

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