Although Rogers is talking about external relationships, this is the essence of mindfulness practice – simply relating to each moment, including difficult ones, without trying to change them or fix them:
In my early years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
Carl Rogers
Mindfulbalance 
wow. This is a wonderful way to stop trying to “control” others because we feel the need to help them. I love this question. Thanks for sharing.