The path

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We can learn to recognize that the difficulty is our path instead of trying to escape from it. This is a radical yet necessary change in our perspective. When uncomfortable things happen to us, we rarely want to have anything to do with them. We might respond with the belief ‘Things shouldn’t be this way’ or ‘Life shouldn’t be so messy.’ Who says? Who says that life shouldn’t be a mess? When life is not fitting our expectations of how it’s supposed to be, we usually try to change it to fit our expectations. But the key to practice is not to try to change our life but to change our relationship to our expectations — to learn to see whatever is happening as our path.

Ezra Bayda, Being Zen

photo philip halling

7 thoughts on “The path

  1. This one resonated with me but…”if we change our relationship to our expectations” are we not then changing our life or I suppose how we live it. Change can be a good thing.

  2. Thank you, Karl! It’s quite a striking photo and your post today is hitting close to home (in a good way), as I prepare to go away on pilgrimage and prepare myself to be open to all experience, good and not so good. Thank you!

  3. Oomph. This is a daily trial. I am a long way from being one with it. But I see it and feel it when I resent some challenges ….. I laugh that I can’t see in those moments that I should change my expectations. Happy Friday. X

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  4. Life sometimes is like discover by Terry Pratchett in hos discworld novels. You are on your way and then the gods play a board game and suddenly you are put into a difficult situation. “Let’s see how she can cope with this”, I hear them say… And the trick is to be able to follow the path of live nevertheless and to make the best out of it.
    I think that this is the path to a happy life. I totally agree with you that if one tries to fight a battle which can’t be won and tells oneself that one’s life would have been better if this or that hadn’t happen it will be an unhappy life in the end.
    So let’s follow the paths which are given to us and may we have the force to see the good things that happen at every step even if our worlds are put upside down by some board game playing discworld gods …

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