Our suffering survives because we enable and feed it. We ruminate on suffering, regret, and sorrow. We chew on them, swallow them, bring them back up, and eat them again and again. If we’re feeding our suffering while we’re walking, working, eating, or talking, we are making ourselves victims of the ghosts of the past, of the future, or our worries in the present.
We’re not living our lives.
Thich Nhat Hahn
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Suffering is part of our human story. We don’t have to dwell in it but that is a choice we have. But denying it would only make it worse.