What if the path to happiness is not
bringing order into the mess of our lives
but instead relaxing amid the mess
and rejoicing in its aliveness and beauty
Haemin Sunim, Korean Zen Buddhist Teacher, When Things Don’t go your Way
This is a real discipline. It requires choosing for the light even when there is much darkness to frighten me, choosing for life even when the forces of death are so visible, and choosing for the truth even when I am surrounded with lies.
The reward of choosing joy is joy itself. Living among people with mental disabilities has convinced me of that. There is so much rejection, pain, and woundedness among us, but once you choose to claim the joy hidden in the midst of all suffering, life becomes celebration. Joy never denies the sadness, but transforms it to a fertile soil for more joy.
Henri Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son
If you were crossing a river and an empty boat collides with your boat,
even if you were bad-tempered, you would not become very angry.
But if you see a man in the boat, he will shout at him to steer clear, and if the shout was not heard, you will shout again, and yet again, and begin cursing.
Yet if the boat were empty, you would not be shouting, and not be angry.
So, if you can empty your own boat crossing the river of the world,
no one will oppose you, no one will seek to harm you….
Such is the perfect person: their boat is empty.
Thomas Merton, The Way of Chuang Tzu