Estranged from our true selves

Thus the state of our whole life is estrangement from others and ourselves, because we are estranged from the Ground of our being, because we are estranged from the origin and aim of our life. And we do not know where we have come from, or where we are going. We are separated from the mystery, the depth, and the greatness of our existence. We hear the voice of that depth; but our ears are closed. We feel that something radical, total, and unconditioned is demanded of us; but we rebel against it, try to escape its urgency, and will not accept its promise.

Paul Tillich

Recommended Summer Reading 3

Jeffrey Brantley is the director of the Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction program at the Duke Center for Integrative Medicine. I find that he is one of the clearest and best writers about  mindfulness meditation practice, giving straightforward and unfussy instructions. His latest book, written in conjunction with Wendy Millstine, is a lovely small-sized work entitled, True Belonging: Mindful Practices to Help You Overcome Loneliness, Connect with Others, and Cultivate Happiness.

The book essentially looks at how mindfulness practice can help us nurture connections and relationships, thus reducing the sense of separateness and loneliness which is increasingly common in today’s world.  It is divided into four sections. The first section, called “Foundation” introduces mindfulness and leads in a core mindfulness of breath practice. The Next three sections are entitled “Connecting with yourself”, “Connecting with others” and Taking mindful and compassionate action in the world”, and consist of reflections followed by guided exercises to help the reader enter into the theme covered in each chapter.

There is a lot of lovely material contained in these short pages, which would reward any reader who takes each chapter and allows the insights and practices sink gently into the heart. For example, sections such as “The Gift of Forgiveness”. “Nourishing your hunger for Connection”  or “Dissolve the Boundary” introduces readers into reflections on what separates them from others or what historical baggage may be holding them back. The subsequent exercises then, in a simple, direct way, leads the reader into mediations focused on these areas.

This book, although it does have a section introducing mindfulness, is a perfect one for deepening meditation practice and allowing it soak into the deeper aspects of our being and our lives. Its format makes it seem like a guidebook and it seems to me to be something to be taken up at different times during the summer months. It touches into,  and potentially can heal, the disconnectedness arising from the mistaken beliefs we have built up about ourselves and others.

Our deep hope and intention in writing this book is that as you read the narratives here, and most importantly, you try and directly experience at least some of the practices, you will gain increased understanding, a deeper sense of connection and greater peace and happiness. And we hope and intend that you will be guided and inspired by that experience in some mysterious way so that, just possibly, our world and others in it may benefit more than ever by the beauty of your life (p. 13).

Steering the mind

 

For each and every one of us, the most important thing is our state of mind.  That which feels joy or sorrow, pleasure or pain, is just our mind.  But our mind doesn’t have to simply react to things around us.  It can be steered in different directions.  You can direct yourself toward what is good, and by doing so, you get accustomed to positive thoughts.  If you direct yourself toward being negative, that also can become a habit.  If you allow yourself to become apathetic and not care much, you become insensitive and dull.  The word spiritual refers to directing or steering our mind toward something good, something noble.  Simply that.  One of the most important factors in accomplishing that goal is to know how to let ourselves be completely at ease.

Chokyi Nyima Rinpoche, Recognizing Our Natural Mind State

We discover as we go along

Walking on the country roads near my house early yesterday.  It is nice walking the same paths each day or each week – we see the changes that the seasons bring, and the colours which follow those changes. The fields demonstrate a constant succession of decay and growth. However, we also see what does not change and how the path stretches out in front of us each day, not matter how many things have moved on.

We don’t receive wisdom;

we must discover it for ourselves after a journey

that no one can take for us, or spare us.

 Marcel Proust

Making time for our better health 3: Arrive Early

For the next seven days, see if you can arrive early for scheduled appointments. Notice how this impacts upon your state of mind. Do meetings feel more spacious? Do you feel more relaxed and better prepared? Do you feel that more is actually accomplished? Sub-rule to this practice: If you are late, relax. Just be late. Don’t punish yourself

Marc Lesser, 3 practices to shift your relationship with time

The knowledge we get through experience

Only knowledge gained through experience, the fruit of living and suffering, fills the heart with the wisdom of love, instead of crushing it with the disappointment of boredom and final oblivion. It is not the results of our own speculation, but the golden harvest of what we have lived through and suffered through, that has the power to enrich the heart and nourish the spirit. And all the knowledge we have acquired through study can do no more than give us some little help in meeting the problems of life with an alert and ready mind.

Karl Rahner