Busyness is offered

Busyness pervades every aspect of modern life, often presented as a virtue or even a benchmark which demonstrates that we are succesful.  In this poem,  Mary Oliver reminds us that it comes to us from outside – it is “offered” to us. We can have a lot to do each day. However, busyness or “speeding up” comes from our relationship to what we have to do. We do not have to accept it but can  protect ourselves from it by creating space. It does not have to be as extreme as the Chines poets . It can be quite simply some quiet time each day, or some time in nature.

Wherever I am, the world comes after me.
It offers me its busyness. It does not believe
that I do not want it. Now I understand
why the old poets of China went so far and high
into the mountains, then crept into the pale mist.

Mary Oliver, The Old Poets of China

New to Mindfulness Practice 14: Do not hook into your thoughts

Teachers often suggest considering your thoughts to be like clouds in the sky. Some are dark and stormy, some are beautiful and fat, while others are wispy and ethereal. Sometimes there are no clouds at all. No matter. Just like clouds in the sky, thoughts pass through your mind. And just like the sky, your mind can contain it all.

We are accustomed to identifying with every large or small thought that comes along. But you can train in identifying as the sky instead. When you do, tremendous confidence arises. You see beyond doubt that you can accommodate it all — sunshine, storms, mist, fog, hail — and never give up.

Susan Piver

Letting go of striving

 

Happiness is like a butterfly:

the more you chase it, the more it will elude you.

But if you turn your attention to other things,

it will come and sit softly on your shoulder 

Thoreau

New to Mindfulness Practice 12: Change the pattern

Meditation isn’t really about getting rid of thoughts;

it’s about changing the pattern of grasping on to things,

which in our everyday experience is our thoughts.

Pema Chodron

Where we place our energies

The quality in our life is related to where we place our attention. We go of all the things that are cluttering our minds, and free up space and time  to live each moment and each encounter with others more fully. This is true for each moment, but also sets the tone for the values which we choose, the direction we are going.

For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Matthew 6:21

What is important is not what someone is

but what they are waiting for.

Not the events of life, but its possibilities.

Dorothee Solle

New to Mindfulness Practice 11: Kindness, not judging

Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way

— on purpose, in the present moment,

and without judgment.

Jon Kabat Zinn