Happiness happens when you fit with your life, when you fit so harmoniously that whatsoever you are doing is your joy. Then suddenly you will come to know: meditation follows you. If you love the work that you are doing, if you love the way you are living, then you are meditative.
Osho, A Sudden clash of Thunder
Since we have our first snow and our first hard frost, and the seeds within the hardened earth lie and wait:
In fall the cricket beneath the rose bush
watches as the roses fall to the very ground that is his kingdom also.
So they’re neighbors, one full of fragrance,
the other the harper of a single dry song.
We call this time of the year
the beginning of the end of another circle,
a convenience and nothing more.
For the cricket’s song
is surely a prayer,
and a prayer, when it is given, is given forever.
This is a truth I’m sure of, for I’m older than I used to be,
and therefore I understand things
nobody would think of
who’s young and in a hurry.
The snow is very beautiful. Under it are the lingering
petals of fragrance, and the timeless body of prayer.
Mary Oliver, The Cricket and the Rose
The first snow of the winter fell here this morning, covering the garden and making life harder for the birds as they search for feed. It will accelerate the movement towards Nature’s resting and waiting, which this year has been postponed due to the mild autumn. We can learn from this cyclical process, which reminds us of necessary elements in our lives also, especially when we pass through moments of difficulty or transition. Sometimes resting and not knowing is natural and waiting is the wisest thing we can do.
I am a book of snow,
a spacious hand, an open meadow,
a circle that waits,
I belong to the earth and its winter.
Paolo Neruda
Most think that living a “full life” means living into old age.
But if you are not alive this moment, what makes you think you’ll be alive then?
Stephen and Ondrea Levine, Embracing the Beloved
This evening marks the start of a New Year in the Christian Liturgical Calendar. Different wisdom traditions mark the passing of time in different ways. Most of the ones which originated in the Northern Hemisphere see a change from one year to the next around now. Although a significant number of people in the Western world come from a Christian background, very few seem to mark this day in a significant way, preferring to look forward to the more commercially-sanctioned December 31st.
We can see that an understanding of time is relative, having been framed in different ways over the centuries and in different traditions. This makes it interesting to observe how we can attach stories and get upset by certain dates, when their meaning is quite arbitrary and driven frequently by more modern advertising concerns. For example, traditionally, different days were used to give gifts. The feast of Saint Nicolas on December 6th in Germany and Northern Europe saw children putting their shoes in front of the fire in the hope of receiving something nice. December 13th, the Feast of Saint Lucy, was celebrated in the Nordic countries and in some parts of Italy, again with gift-giving and visitors coming down the chimney. These and other traditions have been replaced or combined in the much more recent figure of Santa Claus.
I like the fact that there are different calendars used in different traditions. It gives us a choice as to what meaning we wish to attach to the passing of time and how we can hold certain stories lightly. In other words, there is no objective meaning to December 25th, December 31st or any other day. It is us who place meaning on those dates. Because society attaches importance to these dates we can allow an association of stories to form in our heads and make them into a story about our lives. This can often lead us to compare our life or our history to other lives, who are celebrating these days in a “better” way. As a result, the comparing mind is quick to kick into action. So for many people, this holiday period can increase anxiety, and they can feel inadequate on the 25th or the 31st when they were feeling reasonably content on the 24th or the 30th. Human life and family history is much more complex than the snapshots seen on a certain day and cannot be rewritten just for one day.
The more we can see the expectation created by these messages, the more we see that we are frequently tempted to try to manipulate our life into something portrayed outside of us, rather than working with it as it actually is. In sitting practice we are working on our underlying contentment, deep within ourselves; we learn to patiently refuse the messages given from others and return, over and over again, to our life as it is and not the stories we receive about it from outside. We do not need others’ ideas to complete our life for us.
Accepting the conditions of existence means first of all admitting our vulnerability to them. When we realize that the givens of life – no matter how ferocious – are not penalties, but ingredients of depth, lovability and character, we can let go of the belief that we are immune (or need to be). “That can’t happen to me” or “How dare they do that to me” changes to “Anything human can happen to me and I will do my best to handle it”. The strength to handle challenges, in fact, is directly proportional to how much we let go of entitlement.
David Richo, How to be an Adult in Relationships
