Learning to be in the moment

One of the best ways to learn to be mindful is to take the dog for a walk. Dogs are always in the moment. They can take the same walk for 10 years and still experience grass in an entirely new way each day. They’re not worried about the past (“Why didn’t my people give me some of that chicken they had for dinner?”) or the future (” I wonder if my people will give me any chicken when we get home?”). All they think about is what is right in front of them: the smell of the grass, the basset hound in the yard next door, the squirrel in the tree across the street.

Alice Domar & Alice Lesch Kelly: Be Happy without being Perfect: How to break free from the Perfection Domination

Allowing ourselves to be relaxed

Many of us don’t allow ourselves to be relaxed.

Why do we always try to run and run, even while having our breakfast, while having our lunch, while walking, while sitting? There’s something pushing and pulling us all the time. We make ourselves busy in the hopes of having happiness in the future. In the sutra “Knowing the Better Way to Live Alone,” the Buddha said clearly, “Don’t get caught in the past, because the past is gone. Don’t get upset about the future, because the future is not yet here. There is only one moment for you to be alive, and that is the present moment. Go back to the present moment and live this moment deeply, and you’ll be free.”

How do we liberate ourselves in order to really be in the here and the now? Meditation offers the practice of stopping. Let’s try not to run. We run because we’re too afraid.

Thich Nhat Hahn

Breakfast and emails: Doing more may not mean doing better

Last weekend, I  attended a very interesting seminar run by Dr Rich Hanson, author of Buddha’s Brain, The Practical Science of happiness, love and wisdom. So I will post one or two reflections on the brain, its relationship to happiness, and ongoing research on it.

Over millions of years the brain evolved to be sensitive to threats and opportunities. Threats provoke a  more immediate response but opportunities and new information also produce an excited reaction in the brain. One thing which happens is that the neurotransmitter dopamine is released, which is connected to the pleasure system in the brain. Dopamine gives rise to feelings of enjoyment and reinforcement which motivates us to do or to continue to do certain activities. As such dopamine can be addictive, and when people get used to its activity, its absence can be felt as boredom or restlessness.

Recent developments in technology have hugely changed the environment in which the brain has to work, and it was not necessarily designed to cope rapidly with all the challenges it is facing. In particular, media use seems to be triggering this dopamine reaction, creating a type of addictive effect. It is not unusual now for a person to have open at the same time a document they are writing, a computer page they are reading, an instant messaging or social networking site, while texting or listening to music at the same time. A recent Stanford study* seems to suggest that the more we use these different sources of content at the same time –  such as e-mail, SMS, Instant Messaging and Social networking sites –  the more we are stimulating this neural activity and this is changing how we think and behave.

The researchers looked at the effects of heavy media multitasking on an individual’s ability to perform cognitive tasks. Maybe not surprisingly,  they found that people who used less media performed better on these tasks than self-confessed technology junkies. Worryingly, the study seems to suggest that our ability to focus is being undermined by the constant bursts of information favoured by the push technology seen in most recent forms of communication. Push technology allows information and emails to be updated immediately on a system, giving an almost constant stream of information to the user. Based on their research,  the scientists surmised that multitaskers are more responsive to new incoming information; but their ability to focus attention is diminished.   Increased distractions may be weakening the brains ability to focus on what is in front of it, and provoke a withdrawal-like longing for more information, even when the computer is turned off. Thus some users have difficulty switching off, even when on vacation or at an important family event, and their capacity to pay attention to real people is fragmented.

As a New York Times article based on the study observed, this can have huge consequences on relationships and family life, as a person finds “ordinary” life less exciting than the buzz created by media multitasking. The article goes on to note that heavy multitaskers actually have more trouble focusing and shutting out irrelevant information,  and they experience more stress.

The article goes on to quote Nora Volkow, director of the National Institute of Drug Abuse, who goes as far as to say that the technology is rewiring our brains. She and other researchers look at the lure of digital stimulation as less like that of drugs and alcohol and more like the need for food and sex, which are essential but counterproductive in excess.

*Eyal Ophir, Clifford Nass, and Anthony D. Wagner “Cognitive control in media multitaskers” : http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2747164/?tool=pubmed
The New York Times,”Attached to Technology and Paying a Price”:

Just do it

The biggest obstacle to establishing a meditation practice is the erroneous idea that meditation should calm and focus the mind.  Better to assume the attitude that meditation is what you do when you meditate.

There is no doing it right or wrong.

Norman Fischer

The map is deep inside, in your heart

[Some] people feel that their real identity is working on themselves, and some work on themselves with such harshness. Like a demented gardener who won’t let the soil settle for anything to grow, they keep raking, tearing away the nurturing clay from their own heart, then they’re surprised that they feel so empty and vacant. Self-compassion is paramount. When you are compassionate with yourself, you trust in your soul, which you let guide your life.

Your soul knows the geography of your destiny. Your soul alone has the map of your future, therefore you can trust this indirect, oblique side of yourself.

If you do, it will take you where you need to go, but more important it will teach you
a kindness of rhythm in your journey.

John O’Donoghue

Slowing down, going deeper

Although yesterday’s incredibly mild weather belies the fact,  we have passed the traditional date for the start of winter. It  began on the feast of Saint Martin, marking the end of harvest, the drinking of the new wine, and the time for farm labourers to return home. Then the  ancient period of forty days preparation for Christmas, observed since the 5th Century, followed. Traditionally, these days coincided with a sense of the natural beginning of winter, and the body’s response in taking recovery time for itself. They were a time of reflection and a simplification of intake, of taking stock and winding down. In today’s world,  technology allows us to promote the opposite – longer  shopping hours and a  speeding up in preparation for the holidays, as  Thanksgiving and Christmas  advertisments begin to appear.  An ancient way of doing things and a modern  one. Thus we have a choice.

Nature has its periods of growth and its periods of rest. We are still somewhat in the bright and gentle light of autumn but we know that the darker days of winter are sneaking up on us. Soon all will go quiet and cold, with little seeming to stir. However, as yesterday’s post reminds us about the psychological sphere,  underneath much is going on. Nature becomes for us a model in its beckoning us to turn inward and look deeper, to rest, reflect and simplify. Thomas Merton reminded us of the value of “winter, when the plant says nothing.” There is a time for us also to slow down, to say little, to wait and watch.

Our task is to find a balance, to find a middle way, to learn not to overextend ourselves with extra activities and preoccupations, but to simplify our lives more and more. The key to finding a happy balance in modern life is simplicity.

Sogyal Rimpoche.