Tag: Mindfulness

Everything comes around

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Don’t grieve.

Anything you lose comes round in another form

Rumi

Decluttering our minds

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Gaps between activities allow our minds to reopen, expand and have original, often time-and-effort-saving big ideas. So don’t walk with your head down, lost in thought. Don’t just text and call folks when you’re driving or waiting. Don’t read the newspaper when you’re in the bathroom. Allow a little space in your life. Doing nothing is the foundation for doing anything – and it’s one thing we Americans are really, really bad at.

So let go of one or two minutes of entertainment a day – and look out upon this life and world.

Waylon Lewis, Huffington Post

Seeing the bigger picture

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The more things go “our way” for a while, the more we can believe that that is the way it is supposed to be.

And when things don’t go “our way,” which sooner or later they will not, we can get angry, disappointed, depressed, devastated……… forgetting that it was never “supposed to be” any one way at all.

 

Jon Kabat-Zinn, Arriving at your own Door

Holding the heart open

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Had a beautiful stroll this morning on a trail in a forest. The leaves on the trees were  shades of red and orange and yellow and the sun was shining brightly. Suddenly not far away on the trail I saw a deer. They come down into  this part of the forest because it is a refuge, safe from hunters. It stood and watched me carefully, with big bright eyes. I was full of tenderness toward this timid creature, but it turned away, afraid to trust any human.

The human heart is like that. We want so much to connect, to relax with others, but we wait to see and test if they can actually hold our hearts and our fears. We seem to continually be on the alert for danger. Frequently we have moments like this encounter – with people or with events in our life – when we are faced with a choice. Do we keep the heart open or do we turn away? Can we stay open to all we encounter, knowing that everything we meet can be worked with. I know I find this hard and often say “no” to life as it presents itself in this moment and I contract and pull away.

Waiting

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It’s a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately filling up the space.

By waiting, we begin to connect with fundamental restlessness as well as fundamental spaciousness.

Pema Chödrön

Watching it all flow by

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Somedays we find ourselves with confusion in our lives. We are not clear about things or wish for more direction. When that happens I often find that I rush to impose order, in order to make me feel better. But confusion often prompts thoughts, worrying and stories about the future. Staying close to the present moment in nature can ground us and give perspective.

 

I awoke to the confusion of a new day,
The scraps of dreams, memories of yesterday,
And new cravings creeping onto awareness,
The sun spilling its light over all but the shadows and a cacophony of sound.
From outside and in.
What to make order of? What to let go?
And who makes the choice?
I think I will go down to the river and just watch it flow,
It’s been a long time since I have done
something really important.

David Sluyter