As adults we can sometimes fall into the trap of blaming others for where or who we are. Instead we work at letting go of resentments and becoming responsible for nurturing ourselves. Our parents may not have provided the care we needed deep down, or others may have failed to support us in our lives. However, now we take on that role by acknowledging our own deepest needs and listening to what our inner self has to say.
We are, in a sense, our own parents, and we give birth to ourselves by our own free choice of what is good.
St Gregory of Nyssa, Homily on the Book of Ecclesiastes