Suffering is the desire for more choices than reality offers, but reality is without options. Our mind creates mental alternatives when there are none in reality, and we do so by bargaining with reality through our desires and fears. The sense-of-self comes into play when we think that reality can be altered. As we consider the options we take ourselves out of the state of abiding within the moment into acting on the moment. When the moment becomes adversarial, we become self invested and determined to do something about it. This creates a sense of someone being on one side and reality being on the other, as if life was happening to us.
Rodney Smith, Stepping out of Self-Deception
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What a beautiful website. This quote esp. caught my attention as it supports a current goal. Which is to reinterpret how I view the challenge of letting go of those things which are no longer available to me. Intrusive memories flood repeatedly. Drawing me to the logic and wisdom of Mindfulness. I wonder why these thoughts keep coming…and try to be gentle with myself during what I hope is a healing process. Thank you.