The practice of meditation invites us to investigate the flux of arising and passing events. When we get the hang of it, we can begin to see how each artifact of the mind is raised and lowered to view, like so many flash cards. But we can also glimpse, once in a while, the sleight-of-hand shuffling the cards and pulling them of the deck. Behind the objects lies a process. Self is a process. Self is a verb.
Andrew Olendzki, Unlimiting Mind
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Rich Hanson in Buddhas Brain says we create the self from past, unrelated memories woven into an identity. The Buddhist question of “Who am I” has no subject. We have all our emotions so w are not that. We can exist at times with the ego dormant and our calming parasympathetic nervous system activated. Easy to stimulate the sympathetic nervous system when we need more energy to say play baseball.
Judgments are the cognitive machinations of our ego. try eliminating I, Me, Mine for today. can you exist with the ego dormant?
can you let things, people and situations exist in their own?