When the underlying causes that produced and perpetuated an experience of happiness change, most people end up blaming either external conditions or themselves. However, because it reflects a loss of confidence in oneself, or in the things we’re taught to believe should bring us happiness, blame only makes the search for happiness more difficult.
Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche.
When we are disappointed or frustrated, when we’re in pain or when our day’s not going well – these are times when we are likely to … search for an object of blame. Our backbone softens and our heart hardens. Our mantra becomes “If it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t be having this problem”. We believe someone stole our joy and that becomes our view. When we blame we are failing to deal with our own mind. We’re hardening our frustration and jealousy into a little ball and throwing it at somebody else. The minute we say, “it’s your fault!” we are abdicating the throne of our mind
Sakyong Mipham, Ruling your world
Meditation is simply a question of being. You just quietly sit, your body still, your speech silent, your mind at ease, and allow thoughts to come and go, without letting them play havoc on you. If you need something to do, then watch the breathing. This is a very simple process. When you are breathing out, know that you are breathing out. When you breath in, know that you are breathing in, without supplying any kind of extra commentary or internalized mental gossip.
Sogyal Rinpoche, Essential Advice on Meditation
In this very breath that we take now
lies the secret that all great teachers try to tell us.
Peter Matthiessen
It is completely natural that thoughts keep on arising. The point is not to try to stop them, but to liberate them. This is done by remaining in a state of simplicity, which lets thoughts arise and vanish again without stringing onto them any further thoughts. When you no longer perpetuate the movement of thoughts, they dissolve by themselves without leaving any trace. When you no longer spoil the state of stillness with mental fabrications, you can maintain the natural serenity of mind without any effort. Sometimes, let your thoughts flow and watch the unchanging nature behind them.
Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
So the intelligent way of working with emotions is to try to relate with their basic substance, the abstract quality of the emotions, so to speak. The basic “isness” quality of the emotions, the fundamental nature of the emotions, is just energy. And if one is able to relate with energy, then the energies have no conflict with you. They become a natural process
Chogyam Trungpa, The Myth of Freedom and the Way of Meditation
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