If we are honest, many of us consider ourselves to be rather lazy, still haunted by those school reports that said “must try harder!” So it might surprise you if I suggest that much of what we do comes unstuck not because we don’t try hard enough, but because we try too hard, or at least try too hard in the wrong sort of way. We aim too high, too quickly, being prematurely concerned with correctness and results at the expense of practice and process.
Where does this perfectionist task-master come from? I suspect it is the highly toxic combination of a lack of confidence and a subtle sense of unworthiness. So instead of wholeheartedly embracing things, as is our birthright, we snatch at life in a sort of smash-and-grab raid before those in authority deem us imposters and ask us to leave, preferably by the back door
Manjusvara, 1953 – 2011 English-born Buddhist writer
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This definitely struck me to the core… and the idea of that we try too hard- makes perfect sense!! And something I personally hadn’t really thought of before. I know for me- it started as a child- parents continually criticizing and demanding a level of perfection that I just never could obtain in their eyes…. Thanks for such a thought invoking post!!