Tag: impermanence

When faced with the suffering of life: let go

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Some days we are faced with reminded of the disappointing nature of our life or work situation and we are left with a sense of frustration.  These daily sufferings are part of the fundamental, unsatisfactory, nature of life itself which we work with in meditation:

The third noble truth says that the cessation of suffering is letting go of holding on to ourselves. By “cessation” we mean the cessation of hell as opposed to just weather, the cessation of this resistance, this resentment, this feeling of being completely trapped and caught, trying to maintain huge ME at any cost. The teachings about recognizing egolessness sound quite abstract, but the path quality of that, the magic instruction that we have all received, the golden key is that part of the meditation technique where you recognize what’s happening with you and you say to yourself, “Thinking.” Then you let go of all the talking and the fabrication and discussion, and you’re left just sitting with the weather — the quality and the energy of the weather itself. Maybe you still have that quaky feeling or that churning feeling or that exploding feeling or that calm feeling or that dull feeling, as if you’d just been buried in the earth. You’re left with that. That’s the key: come to know that. 

Pema Chodron, The Wisdom of No Escape: And the Path of Loving-Kindness

When faced with setbacks

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To give ourselves compassion, we first have to recognize that we are suffering. We can’t heal what we can’t feel. We certainly feel the sting of falling short of our ideals, but our mind tends to focus on the failure itself, rather than the pain caused by failure. This is a crucial difference. The moment we see something about ourselves we don’t like, our attention tends to be absorbed by our perceived flaws.  In that moment, we don’t have the perspective needed to recognize the suffering caused by our feelings of imperfection, let alone to respond with compassion. We need to stop for a breath or two and acknowledge that we’re having a hard time, and that our pain is deserving of kind, caring response. 

Kristin Neff

 

Sunday Quote: Both and

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As for life, I’m humbled,
I’m without words
sufficient to say

how it has been hard as flint,
and soft as a spring pond,
both of these
and over and over

Mary Oliver, Long Afternoon at the Edge of Little Sister Pond

The invisible world

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There’s no inner landscape in the invisible world of our souls and hearts but is full of the most melodious and nourishing and wild freedom.  And everyone should go there, to the wild place, where there are no cages, where there are not tight rooms without windows and without doors.  Everyone should go to the free clearance places in their own hearts

John O’Donohue

Sunday Quote: More means happier

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Went to an outlet mall in Kildare yesterday to get some bread, 30 minutes before the other stores opened. 8.30 am,  car parks already full, even buses arriving with shoppers from around the country. The modern Western tendency toward mid-winter speeding up and  shopping. An interior felt-sense of running…

Advertising finds fertile ground in the mind’s response to an underlying sense of life as unsatisfactory. Meditation is essentially training the mind to free it from the type of craving which generates stress and anxiety.

How much does a person lack in him or herself

who must have many things?

Sen no Rikyū 1522 – 1591, Japanese Zen Tea master

Today’s obsession with more

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Today is the Feast of Saint Martin, traditionally a big day of celebration in all countries around Europe and the start of a period of fasting and preparation for Christmas. It was the last day of harvest celebrations and the following days saw a period of simplification and slowing down. Less, rather than more, was seen as the way to keep our bodies and minds in harmony with natural rhythms at this time of year.

The notion of a spirituality of subtraction comes from Meister Eckhart (c.1260-1327), the medieval Dominican mystic. He said the spiritual life has much more to do with subtraction than it does with addition.

Yet I think most Christians today are involved in great part in a spirituality of addition. The capitalist worldview is the only one most of us have ever known. We see reality, experiences, events, other people, and things — in fact, everything — as objects for our personal consumption. Even religion…worship services, and meritorious deeds become ways to advance ourselves…The nature of the capitalist mind is that things (and often people!) are there for me. Religion looks good on my résumé, and anything deemed “spiritual” is a check on my private worthiness list. 

Richard Rohr, Radical Grace