Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands,
because if we are not grateful,
then no matter how much we have we will not be happy – because we will always want
to have something else or something more.
Br David Steindl-Rast
Mindfulness involves resting our mind in a place where there is no anxiety, no fear. In fact, in that place we find the opposite. We find resourcefulness, courage, and a quiet happening. Where is that “place”? It is not a geographical location. It is not a location in time. It is the flowing time and place of the present moment. Anxiety is fuelled by thoughts of past and future. When we drop those thoughts, we drop anxiety and find ourselves at ease.
Jan Chozen Bays, How to Train a Wild Elephant
Welcome the present moment as if you had invited it.
It is all we ever have, so we might as well work with it rather than struggling against it.
We might as well make it our friend and teacher rather than our enemy.
Pema Chodron
Silence allows us put a little distance between ourselves and all that, quite literally, occupies our lives, our time and our minds. To be silent is to put things into perspective. It is to let go of our needless preoccupation about the past and the future, and become aware of the still centre behind the internal commentary. By cultivating silence, we draw aside the curtain on which we project the ephemeral fantasies and obsessions of our so-called “normal” life, a life characterized by being anywhere and indeed everywhere but here and now.
Nicolas Buxton, Tantalus and the Pelican: Exploring Monastic Spirituality Today
All of us, without exception, have been thoroughly conditioned to react immediately to what is happening in and around us by thinking about it — talking to ourselves and to others in judgmental ways, often repeating these thoughts over and over again. Thoughts evoke emotions, tensions, excitement and stress, and can bring on exhaustion and sickness. Awareness reveals this simply to be so. Awareness is freedom from wanting to improve oneself or to put oneself down. It … opens one up to whatever else is happening this instant: breathing, a bird singing, a motor humming, the wind blowing, thoughts moving, the body tensing and relaxing…
Toni Packer
Can we look at all the aspects of our lives with this mind, just open to see what there is to see? I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time doing that. I have a lot of habits of mind – I think most of us do. Children begin to lose that innocent quality after a while, and soon they want to be “the one who knows.” We all want to be the one who knows. But if we decide we “know” something, we are not open to other possibilities anymore. And that’s a shame. We lose something very vital in our life when it’s more important to us to be “one who knows” than it is to be awake to what’s happening. We get disappointed because we expect one thing, and it doesn’t happen quite like that. The very nature of beginner’s mind is not knowing in a certain way, not being an expert. As Suzuki Roshi said in Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind: “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few.” As an expert, you’ve already got it figured out, so you don’t need to pay attention to what’s happening. Pity.
