Patience means allowing things to unfold at their own speed
rather than jumping in with your habitual response to either pain or pleasure. The real happiness that underlies both gloriousness and wretchedness often gets short-circuited by our jumping too fast into the same habitual pattern.

Patience is not …learned when everything is harmonious and going
well. When everything is smooth sailing, who needs patience? … There is no cultivation of patience when your pattern is to just try to seek harmony and smooth everything out. Patience implies
willingness to be alive rather than trying to seek harmony.

Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Commentary on the Lojong Slogan, “Whichever of the Two Occurs, Be Patient”